4.9.13

WHY DO THY BULLY/ABUSE EACHOTHER?




BULLYING CAN BE CLASSIFIED IN TWO CATEGORIES:

 
 Direct bullying: 

 Direct bullying involves a great deal of physical abuse and aggression, such as shoving and poking, throwing things, slapping, choking, punching and kicking, beating, stabbing, pulling hair, scratching, biting, scraping, and pinching.

Indirect bullying: 

Indirect bullying which is called social aggressiveness, attempting to socially isolate the victim. This isolation is achieved through a wide variety of techniques, including spreading gossip, refusing to socialize with the victim, bullying other people who wish to socialize with the victim, and criticizing the victim's manner of dress, and other socially-significant markers this includes the victim's race, religion, disability, sex, or sexual preference, etc..

      an array of nonviolent behavior which can be considered indirect bullying, at least in some instances, such as name calling, the silent treatment, arguing others into submission, manipulation, false gossip, lies, false rumors, staring, giggling, and laughing at the victim. Saying certain words that will trigger a memory form a victim’s pasted event and mocking can be devastating for the victim.  Act Against Bullying, was set up in to help children who were victims of this type of bullying by researching and publishing coping skills.



The Mean girls and boys:

     It has been noted that there tend to be differences in how bullying manifests itself between the sexes. Males are more likely to be physically aggressive whereas females tend to favor excluding and mockery, though it has been noticed that females are becoming more physical and aggressive in their bullying. There can be a tendency in both males and females to opt for exclusion and mockery rather than physical aggression when the victim is perceived to be too strong to attack without risk, or the use of violence that would otherwise cause problems for the bullies such as criminal consequence, or the bullies see physical altercations as immature particularly bullying among adults.
     Boys bully more than girls, and those that bully their victims usually have poor social and problem solving skills. More than anything else, poor academic performance predicts those who will bully.


 Bullying/abuse and Emotions

    Envy, jealousy and Resentment in most cases seem to present the motives for the bullying/ abuse.. While some bullies are arrogant and narcissistic, bullies can also use the abuses that we have covered, as a tool to conceal shame, anxiety or to boost their own self-esteem, by demeaning others. The Bully/abuser feels empowered, Bullies/Abusers may bully out of jealousy or because they themselves are, or have been bullied/abused. Some have argued that a bullying or abuse reflects the environment of his/her home, repeating a cycle or model he/she has learned from his/her parents.