90% of not just children but teenagers are bullied in school
at some stage. 80% of bullying happens in recess or on the playground or during
the walk to their next classes, bus or walk home. They do this in private but,
most of the time in full view of others. They do this for several reasons.
·
Aggressive children or Teenagers feel the need
to dominate, run the school. For some odd reason they need to control situations.
they might be part of what they call a “
click”.
For example do you remember the movie Grease
and you had the pink ladies and the t-birds, well those were clicks. They were
a group of friends that stuck together, treated people a certain way. You had to be Rude enough to get in, crazy
mean enough to people to stay in.
·
The most
common reason why a person is bullying is to seek control and to dominate and
this is due to uncontrollable personal issues. This person is not in control of
something and seeks control so he or she steels it from others. If that makes
any sense.
For example : mom and dad are having problems
and the only way he can express his anger about it is to take out his
inappropriate behaviors on others . I hope that made some kind of sense for
you, although his actions are not excusable remember that. Your child’s safety
does come first always, that is your first priority.
WORK ON YOUR CHILD'S SELF- ESTEEM
1)
Don’t allow your child or children’s adolescents
be encouraged by bully behavior.
2)
Don’t ignore
your child or children’s feelings and hope that it goes away.
3)
Don’t let
this bully behavior effect, your child or children’s self-esteem, of
self-confidence, self-worth.
4)
Don't let your child or children fall victim to
years of cruelty and harm that words,
name calling, or worse things bullies can/will
do.
5)
Bullies
attack because of your child or children’s size, weight, skin color, skin
blemishes, heritage, sexual orientation, gender, and it can affect their entire
future. That is why working on their self-esteem, self-confidence, self-worth is
very important.
I don't want you to get me wrong I am not telling you that it is in no way you child or children's fault for bullies targeting them. so lets get that straight. The reason why I suggest you work on there self-esteem is because it has a lot to do with HOW THEY HANDLE THE VERBAL ABUSE. If someone has good self-esteem, self confidence, and self-worth. We, yes I say we because as one of the bullied, need to have a good self-confidence, self-esteem,self-worth about oneself. this gives you confidence in your everyday life about who, who, how you are.
A confident person can wipe off the harsh harmful words that are being launched in his or her direction. I will talk more about Self Confidence in more details in another post